Flawsome Love

Due to lack of information about its historical background, I don’t celebrate Valentine’s day. A brief research I did on that matter –on the first page of google search result, five seconds before I wrote this– didn’t do much of help either. So if anybody know what happened once-upon-a-time ago that makes people decide to go all lovey dovey on that particular date, please do tell me.

Despite of all my indecisiveness, the amorous vibe had never been so intense at any other time of the year. So… let’s talk about love.

Wait…, what!?

Before we start at all, please note : I am deep under influence of TED videos overdose. They make me feel like talking about life, love, self-growth, knowledge, and all of those grand awesome stuff. I’ll ditch the compulsive metallic items pinner, and Armie Hammer’s fangirl side of me for a moment. Now get to the point.

By what seems to be random photos above i’m trying to represent something that we encounter through our life in so many forms, and so many names, one of them being : imperfections.

Like it or not, imperfections, flaws, and mistakes are what we’re made of. That might sound terribly negative to you, even though actually, it’s just a simple truth. The statement sounding negative in the first place might be the reason why our views on those things need a little tweaking here and there. Just like air, water, and food, imperfections are the important part of our lives. Okay, i’m annoyingly terrible at metaphor but to think again, we need it in order to grow. If anyone would wake up flawless like Beyonce said, Alexa Chung’s messy bob would never be cool in the first place. And just how dull the street style scene would be without some ripped jeans. See? Imperfection’s mere existence allow possibilities to grow, progress, advance, and makes life as dynamic as we know it.

As someone who study psychology, i found out since the first time that we will never get the absolute final conclusion, and that’s the nature of social studies. On every research we conducted for example, we need to measure how much error we have in it, and it is inevitable. But a research doesn’t need to be perfectly free from error in order to be successful. In fact, a flawed research will most likely prompt numerous related research in the future. Also, even though it’s certain that this science will not reach perfection, doesn’t mean that what we’re doing are meaningless. Before that, people did not even scratch the surface of the truth about human behavior.

The inevitability of flaws doesn’t need to be mourned, but rather, accepted as the natural part of our life. We can never be perfect but we can always be Flawsome (borrowed the term from one of ANTM episode, thanks Tyra!). Find our flaw, accept that we –and everything else in our life– have it, and work on it (note this, self!). At the end of the day, don’t you think imperfection deserves some love for the invention of rustic interior design, chocolate brownie, and sweatpants being back on trend?

So, yes my large forehead, my thin hair, walls with cracks and molds, frumpy rooftop, blemishes, sneakers that will never be perfectly white, and failed DIY projects, I LOVE YOU! Or at least i’ll try to…

I’m entering this writing to a contest. But considering that the main rules are “write about someone you love dearly” instead of “write about complicated intangible concept you’re trying to love” i might have violated it in every aspects. But now that the writing’s finished, it’s like another thing to go to my pensieve, and off my mind :D *inserting smiley face because i can*

Tomorrow (or several days after tomorrow) i’ll be back with the usual posts. Thank you for letting me share this imperfect piece of thoughts, and for that one last quote for you:

“You are imperfect and wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging” – Brene Brown

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